The new trend in dating sites built exclusively for Christians may have emerged long after their general market analogs but they make few strides in avoiding the same pitfalls.
After entering my email address, zip code, and height, I’m asked, “What is your body type? This paradox is one of several that causes me to wonder if increasingly popular Christian dating websites undermine the faith-values of their users.
” My cursor hovers above “Washboard,” but in the end, I select, “I should maybe lose a few.” Next comes eye color, ethnicity, education, occupation, and smoking and drinking preferences. I’m questioned on what type of church I attend, how often I go, and what ministry I’m involved in. As of 2011, Christian Mingle had garnered more than 5 million users, and it generated .9 million in revenue during the first nine months of 2012.
In a twist of irony, Reformed Singles seeks to assemble a crowd of people who minimize humans’ ability to choose and then inundate them with choices.
When I discovered the site, I tweeted about it and received the following reply from Barnabas Piper, son of reformed paragon John Piper: His response seems to echo my feeling that these sites and the Christians who engage in them might not be thinking as deeply as one might assume.
The selection proves again that while the Lord may “looketh at the heart,” His people are still very much interested in outward appearances. Their profile pictures are surprisingly provocative—low cut shirts, exposed shoulders, skin-tight pants, pouty lips.