One of the hardest things that people face over the course of a long-term relationship is that the initial spark – what many in the polyamory community call “new relationship energy” – fades.
You find yourself enchanted by this new person, hanging on their every word, thinking about them throughout the day.
Perhaps you laugh a little longer at their jokes, you take more time getting ready for a date or you try sushi for the first time even though you think you’ll hate it.
♦◊♦ But somewhere along the way, the newness and excitement starts to fade.
It transitions from romance to real love and caring. But you may find yourself missing the thrill that you had when you were first dating. Try any one of these 25 tips below and I promise they’ll definitely put the spark back into your relationship.
It’s the age old joke that sleeping with the same person for the rest of your life is the equivalent of eating the same frozen hamburger for every meal for all eternity while all of your single friends are zipping out to gastropubs and eating multiple delicious entrees in combinations that stand in defiance of the laws of God and Man. While that initial honeymoon stage of the relationship fade in order to form a bond that is deeper and more intimate as the two of you become closer and intertwine your lives together, it doesn’t mean that you can’t still live it up like a couple of horny teenagers at the start of a slasher movie.It’s enough to fog over all those times you ranted about how much you hated the dating scene and you begin to reminisce the days when we were single and the world was our surprisingly open-minded oyster. A long term relationship doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to watch the spark fade away. One of the biggest mistakes that couples make is that they put the emphasis in their long-term maintenance on romance – date nights at romantic restaurants for candle-lit dinners and soft music, trying to remind themselves of what it was like when things were new. You want to do things that get your heart racing, kick your adrenal glands into overdrive and get your central nervous system engaged.