Past columns and submission guidelines are at latimes.com/laaffairs Throwing a line into the cyber-fishing pond for a date on a Friday night is as scary as it is (too) easy. Sure, I was originally hoping to find someone to grow old with, but, if the gods hand you a lemon, make lemon meringue.
I'd had a 16-year marriage that ended in divorce six years ago, and my 18-year-old daughter was finally off at college.
" We laughed heartily, but in my gut I wanted this to be true more than I wanted to admit. I casually checked the site for several months, replying to some, ignoring others and trying not to be devastated by unanswered messages. Lives: Carson." One profile picture was a selfie with alluring baby blue bedroom eyes that made me suddenly hit the "Send Message" button: "Hi," I wrote.
I've entered "The Big Bang" territory: He's Leonard Hofstadter, with Sheldon's social graces, Bernadette's looks and Howard's moves. divorced and a single mom, but still with a soft spot for smart geeks.
Just because I'm on the slippery side of 45 doesn't mean it's all over for me. I have two other women I'm writing to right now and I'm not sure I can handle a third? There are no dirty socks to pick up after, but there is a downside.
"I'm sensing that you want me to be there," he wrote. "I sat on it for three hours but I was secretly smiling. PCH and 7th in Long Beach, at 8 pm," I finally replied. A Gen-X, computer-whiz engineer working ridiculously long hours in the aerospace industry. I played very hard to get (because I am), but he ignored it. " I thought to myself, "That will surely get rid of him." But Sunday afternoon arrived, and lo and behold, a text popped up: "Where do you want to meet? Affairs columns, and submission guidelines"Meet me at Sapporo Sushi. So, what Cracker Jack prize did I get, you might wonder?I'd been through the wringer these past six years, first with an on-again, off-again long-distance relationship with an old flame I'd reconnected with through Facebook. After that, there were others I'd met in real life — a widower, a couple of recently divorced men.
Each of them started out optimistically but fizzled when it became apparent that they wanted something different, i.e. Then my 30-year-old niece told me about a dating site called Plenty of Fish that "everyone" was on. We joked about going on double dates with uncle-nephew pairs, and I said jokingly, "Yes, and I'll end up with the nephew and you with the uncle!