But as the weeks have passed, although I continue to feel strong and lingering feelings for my ex, my feelings for the new (beta, completely out of my usual range of attraction) guy have started growing.
He’s keen to progress things but I’ve kept him at arms-length (with honesty and openness about why).
Since the breakup we had zero contact and in this time I have become friends with another guy.
You deserve credit for trying to turn over a new leaf and open up to different (read: less challenging) men. There are lots of people – men and women alike – who are eager to find love again directly after their painful breakup. The beta guy may put up with it for awhile because he likes you, but he deserves to show you what it’s like to BE with him.It’s only been three months and you have every right to still be reeling from your situation. Not for him to have an unrequited crush on you, but to be there for you – calling you every day after work, listening to you vent about your boss, cooking dinner together, planning weekends away together, meeting each others’ friends and family members.