The men/women who go from relationship to relationship, (often leaving one partner for another) are NOT going to get past their issues.And the sad thing is that far too many men, despite their loud and protesting denials, really just want another mother.It's not worth it." Through some personal experience and in talking to many other women, we have compiled a list of things to watch for.This list can apply equally to women as well as men.If the person you are with does any ONE thing on this list, put on your running shoes.
We are socialized to believe that if we help them, take care of them, give up our own needs for theirs, they will "take care" of us. Of course, men are just as vulnerable- they often marry women they barely know, feeling that they have to be "mature" and "grown up" and then end up miserable because they're stuck with someone they have nothing in common with.
Or they play "rescuer" and take up with women who are little, fragile dolls who need to be 'taken care of' and they say things like "She needs me, she's so fragile. The sad thing is, that the men/women who CAN change, do it on their own. They take time off from relationships, and work on their relationship with themselves.
The can demonstrate REAL work and real change, rather than platitudes.
Don't enter a relationship expecting him to change, because he won't, even if it is better for him and he knows it.
And if he DOES seem to change, he'll only revert back the moment you let up, and he'll only resent you the whole time you are trying to get him to change.
This is a big one: He downplays all the "RULES" people follow when dating.