Anthropologists have noticed a statistic that correlates nicely with the social and sexual permissiveness of a population.It’s called the sex ratio – the number of men for every 100 women. excess of women over men), social mores are relaxed, women go out a lot, and everyone has a ball. excess of men), people go out less and attitudes are more conservative.This statistic alone may be the single biggest cause of the lackluster love lives of singles in LA.Let’s say you meet someone you like -- cute, fun, smart, funny. So when I found myself back in LA after a long hiatus, it was a bit of a homecoming.
Accordingly, dating in New York City is fun, while dating in Los Angeles sucks.
Physics tells us that the higher the activation energy, the less frequent the event.
The perceived abundance of friendly, fit women didn’t hurt either.
However, the quality of my love life was worse than it had been in any other city.
You ask where this person lives --“Silver Lake.” You live 20 miles away in Santa Monica -- and that’s not just any 20 miles. 20 miles is a perfectly reasonable distance to travel in the 5,000+ square miles of Los Angeles to get somewhere. It’s almost twice the length of Manhattan (13 miles) and enough distance to cross a couple of national borders in Europe.
It’s 20 miles through one of the most car-jammed concrete jungles on the planet, with no efficient public transport to speak of. And so the activation energy of meeting someone not nearby goes up.