And for those in long distance relationships, it’s a necessity.
Because we’re not living in the dark ages, where hand-written letters and the occasional phone call were the only things connecting you and your partner, we have amazing inventions to keep people closer together, even if they are a world away.
Skype has grown to be every long distance relationship’s third wheel.
Skype, to me, is the most sexually revolutionary product since the Pill, and Skype sex is now a luxury for couples everywhere. While surprise sex is certainly fun when you’re in person, it is nearly impossible to execute from long distance. Discuss the ideal situations for turning each other on, telling them what you’d like to see and do, but also acknowledge where to draw the line so that no one is uncomfortable. Use language to do what your body can’t and to make up for the distance. At times, Skype sex may feel uncomfortable and unnatural. After your amazing, mind-blowing Skype sex (or even strange, awkward, giggly, my-foot-got-tangled-in-my-sheets Skype sex) it might be a good idea to have a bit of pillow talk. You are in different places but enjoying your bodies together at the same time. I mean come on, why do you think Google is really developing Google glass?
So whether your partner goes to a different school, is abroad this semester, or is your 35-year-old neighbor back home, read below for some tips on how to make the most of your Skype sex experience. Just like in everyday sex, neither of you have anything to prove. Practice being in front of a webcam and know the things that make you feel sexy when you’re “on display.” Whether it’s the lighting, the clothing, or the positioning, be aware of what makes you feel good. Because you can’t be there to officially show your partner how turned on you are, tell them! But as my friend Sullivan says, “Sometimes when it starts to feel silly looking at a computer screen, laughing like you would in person eases tension and makes it more organic and real. Talk about what worked and what didn’t and if you would be interested in doing it again. As much as you may love the sex, that’s not all Skype is for. So set a date, some ground rules, lock your door, and have some fun!
Remember that you are doing this to enjoy each other so have fun with it! Try talking it through ahead of time to alleviate some of the nervous energy regarding letting loose in front of your computer screen. Again, I stress, this is about you, not your audience. Make sure you are getting the most pleasure and that you are comfortable. Skype sex (and mutual masturbation in general) is an amazing way to share an intimate part of yourself with your partner. Your partner will know if you’re having a good time and they will be into it, too. Show appreciation for your partner and give them encouragement. For me that makes it feel more like sex than just watching each other masturbate. Non-verbal ways of indicating pleasure reception, ya feel?
You will look sexiest if you’re feeling sexiest, angles be damned. Tell them what you wish you were doing to them and If you feel so inclined, vocalize it.
Despite some of our unhealthy relationships with Siri, akin to Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlett Johansson in Her, technology can be an amazing tool for maintaining real-life relationships, especially sexual ones.Whether you have a vibrator that is synced to your i Tunes or a pillow that allows you to hear your partner’s heartbeat wherever they are, technology can be a beautiful thing.