by Jayne Flaherty So you’ve been swanning about Adelaide with your beloved in tow and enjoying being the better half of ‘us’.
And then, out of the clear blue, your relationship, coupledom, wedded bliss has come to an earth shattering, miserable end. The end of a long-term relationship is inevitably a difficult time, psychologically and physically.
Now that I’m single, I have an opportunity to do all the things I put off while I was putting all my energy into my relationship.
Adaption takes time, yet I’m already thinking of all the possibilities – meeting new people, going to new places, tackling new projects, etc.Sometimes change is the best thing for us, as it opens us up to new activities and environments.” “My heart has been bashed, bruised and broken, but I don’t feel traumatised and I know I will love again.When happily ever after means a party of one, the average single woman generally struggles to find her way. Many people need the assistance of professional counselling to fully recover from a break up. “These stages don’t necessarily go in a nice neat order,” says Shanahan. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others. You’re so used to sharing everything and having someone around. Ultimately, if you can’t enjoy being single, how can you enjoy being with someone else?Perhaps you were together briefly; perhaps you were together for a long time. Psychologist Moira Shanahan says the loss of a long term partner typically has five stages: The first is denial and isolation: the “this can’t be happening to me” stage. The third is bargaining: the “what if” phase, when we wonder about all those things that, perhaps, we could have done differently. “They are often all jumped up and any one stage can be repeated several times. Believe it or not, you’re not the only person who feels uncertain about her new singleness.
Perhaps you grew apart; perhaps he left you for another woman. I spoke to ten single Adelaide ladies in order to develop the woman’s bible of proven ways to be happy flying solo.Perhaps your relationship was on the rocks for a while; perhaps you were incredibly in love and the break up has hit you like a runaway freight train. Here are some important truths these amazing women had to share: “Finally some me time.