One recent speed-dating event in Pentagon City was designed specifically for Asian and Indian professionals in their 40s and 50s.Other events have included speed-dating for travel lovers; another for gay men over 40; a seminar on how to connect instantly at a bar or party; and an evening of music at the Ukrainian Embassy.The groups, which form online ( and then gather in person around targeted interests, represent just about every subculture you can imagine, from hikers and history buffs, to astronomy lovers and owners of large-breed dogs.Hurst says that activities like karaoke or kickball leagues often serve as good ice-breakers.(Following his own advice, he met his girlfriend of over two years at a meetup group in Reston.) In this same vein, literary types have gravitated to “Book Dating” events at the Shirlington library, where singles (typically over 30) bring a book with them and, in a process similar to speed-dating, discuss the book with a rotating group of people in three-minute increments.While the program is currently on hold, Peter Golkin, a spokesperson for the Arlington Public Library system, expects it to return in 2015.(page 3 of 3) AS SINGLES SCENES go, Northern Virginia is a pretty good place to be—even if your baggage includes an ex, children and a mortgage. Just this summer, the real estate website ranked Arlington as a hotbed of successful, educated single women. “While we don’t target programs specifically for singles, our dog parks, trails, gyms, community centers and fields are great places to meet people,” says Laura Lazour, chief of the Arlington County Sports & Recreation Division.
“Arlington has more things to do and more people available to do things with,” says the IT consultant, who grew up in Montgomery County and lived there before moving to this side of the Potomac 11 years ago. “Northern Virginia is growing rapidly, which means a larger number of older singles are there than in other places.“We [also] have a travel program with day trips, and many single people are involved with that.For many people, this is where they find their friends.” Arlington resident Michael Hurst, 36, a self-described “dating coach” and creator of Become That Guy ( a dating advice site for men, recommends local meetup groups as good places to meet potential love interests.“I find the best way to meet women is through friends of friends. We have bars and great places to go to dinner, plus lots of people walking around.” Though he says his parents have “given up” on the idea of him marrying, he hasn’t. His prospects are good, according to Michael Karlan, president of Professionals in the City ( a social-networking group that counts 200,000 members in the D. There are also a lot more singles with children in Northern Virginia than in other areas around D.
C.” In fact, the size of the local singles population has led Karlan’s organization to get fairly targeted with its programming.“Society no longer expects everybody to be married, so people are more free to be single,” Karlan points out.