I know that sex doesn’t necessarily mean putting a P in the V.
I know that oral sex doesn’t happen only between a man and a woman.
By agreeing to give him head, you’re demonstrating that you have faith in your relationship and believe he’s a good person. One wrong move with oral sex, and someone could get hurt (think: teeth), because it’s a sex act that requires your attention and affection.
Unless the guy is my boo, I’m not going to give just any man a blowjob. They are not some frivolous, mindless act; they require concentration, skill and patience.
In the immortal words of Samantha Jones, “Honey, they don’t call it a JOB for nothing.”I mean, what’s in it for me?
You’re clearly banking a lot on this person, and that is intimate in and of itself. You have to trust a guy enough to feel comfortable getting on your knees and putting his penis in your mouth. And if you’re giving head, you’re focusing on sharing your skills for your partner’s benefit.
I’m not trying to be awkward and weird with my heteronormativity. So for the sake of flow and consistency, I’m going to refer to oral sex from my perspective — that is, sucking that good dick. It takes a lot of work and a quite a bit of trust, and it’s way more intimate than regular, run-of-the-mill sex.
If you’re drunk at a bar and you take someone home, you’re not going to take the time to go down on this rando. When was the last time you gave an adequate, drunken blowjob?
I’m far more likely to jump in the sack with you than I am to get on my knees — mainly because I’d rather actually have a shot at an orgasm.
I’d rather pick up a hottie at the bar, throw a condom on him and BAM, get it in and be finished with the whole thing.
You’re valuing another person’s pleasure above your own.
You’re showing him you genuinely care that feels good. And even if you’re giving head to get head, you have to trust that the other person is going to return the favor, which may not always happen.