In a post for Fox News Magazine, Kim Olver, author of “Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner and Your Life,” stresses the importance of friendship in romance: When I think of reasons people cheat, I often hear things like, 'She never supports me.' 'He didn’t want to spend time with me.' 'She doesn’t understand me.' 'He never really listens when I talk to him.' 'I don’t even think s/he likes me.' 'S/he is always complaining.'Aren’t all these statements really the opposite of the core of friendship?
Think about how you are with your friends: You tell each other everything.
When you already have a history of friendship, of doing favors for each other just because you want to, you can easily consciously pull back a little bit to make room for some of that passion and desire to grow.
Satisfying your partner’s needs or wants increases how much he or she There must be a balance between the likability and desirability factors.
Since it’s easy to get caught up in the aloof and challenging parts of a relationship, this necessary liking-desiring balance could be more difficult to achieve without the friendship part fully in tact.