Boring usernames like "John21234" should be avoided.Same goes for anything suggestive like "Big Package1".3.Here's an example of what NOT to do:(There's no intrigue here, no mystery. he's asking you to put effort in immediately, without knowing anything about him other than what he looks like in a miniature avatar image ...I'm sure I'll find somewhere else to answer that specific question on Quora).2. Notice that your username shows up in the preview as well ...so come up with something witty that says something about yourself. so why didn't what I knew how to do work online? I began doing this the only way I knew how: through disciplined experimentation and testing.
Back when I was a precocious, introverted youth who completely lacked charm, I tried online dating. Over the course of a couple years I, along with a team of friends, split tested multiple profiles, in multiple cities, on various sites, and gauged the opposite sex's responses to different messages, as well as what sequences of messages led to the best response.
I totally struck out, which wasn't particularly surprising at the time. By this point in my life I had come out of my shell, all that, so I decided to try online dating again. By the end of my time doing this I had discovered many key tips and best practices for online dating, as well as many "copy-and-paste" message templates that routinely had a response rate hovering around 75%.
Spark curiosity with the first few lines of your email.
Just like in Gmail, many dating sites show a preview of your message in the inbox.
A good image should make them want to click on the message because they're curious.
For example:(The nuances of good profile photos are beyond this message ...