If they’ve always been the ‘good’ one in the relationship, they’re on the receiving end when things go wrong.So it’s about finding a balance – don’t take any crap, but don’t cause it either.And when we say date, what does that actually mean? Being a single-mother (even though I’m in a happy relationship), I know there can be certain prejudices on how I operate in the dating arena, but for a man it is completely acceptable to do whatever they like. My kids give me a hard time vetting my dates and convincing me to spend more time on my own! When people behave in certain ways that aren’t honourable or have integrity, I think it’s down to insecurity.And if you’re the one being deceitful, you’ve got to live with that.Finding the key to a healthy and successful relationship is tough enough without the onslaught of women ‘dressed to kill’ on social media vying for attention.But, women can ooze confidence without flashing the flesh. Personally, I like to dress up for me, not for my date. In this day and age, it seems impossible to meet people or to find a new partner unless you do it through online dating – especially with London being so incestuous with its inner circles and all!How do you meet potential partners when the art of conversation has been replaced by swiping a match on your phone? And if, like some people, you see more than one person at the same time, does that make you a floozie?It seems we’re becoming more and more like the US in our dating ways – a society where it’s acceptable to date more than one person at the same time. Or is that the sign of a woman who’s confident, experiencing life and simply in control? I’ve never wanted to be the victim, so I’ve always been very ballsy.
’ If my friends are suffering, I say to them: why be in a relationship?
The trouble is some people are addicted to pattern.