If you haven’t heard of someone’s profession or interests, that’s what Google is for — because explaining your life’s work to someone in a Tinder message can be really exhausting.( Gu1g Jq DK)9.As someone who has been on the receiving end, here are some mistakes that have made me hit “delete” or, in the worst cases, “block” on my online dating messages.( AJH5Wvx C)You’ve heard this advice about your cover letters, and it applies here too: Please don’t write a message generic enough that it could have been copied and pasted.
Ok Cupid’s data shows that men receive replies to about 20-50% of their online dating messages, depending on their attractiveness — and I’m going to go out on a limb and say most would like to move that number up to 100%.While sometimes it’s your profile that makes women think twice, I can also attest that your message itself can kill your chances of a response.If someone’s political, social, or religious views really bother you, why would you message her? ( HW2i12Lojew)As a rule of thumb, if we have to use Wikipedia to answer your questions, you’ve gone too far.We might be too tired or busy to answer even if we’re interested.
But to pull the Ok Cupid data back up, users who write “sexy,” “beautiful,” “hot,” or “cutie” in their initial messages have a below-average response rate.Focusing on appearance from the get-go can make us wonder if we have anything substantive to connect over. Apologizing Trust me, I know what it’s like to send a message when you’re already picturing the recipient sighing in exasperation upon opening it, insulted that you would even imply you were in the same league.