The last time I encountered this problem I was two months (and seven dates) into seeing a man I was wild about.
Raise your hand if you know what I’m talking about.
The two of you keep dating, and when you feel like connecting with him, you check his status.
Stated simply, when you connect with your (potential) man, you instinctively feel safe.
When you go online and you see he’s not connecting with you, but instead he’s connecting with other women, you lose. when you’re looking at the ones you don’t like that much.
Hopping online for a drive-by is not kind to your sweet little spirit, and you lose your capacity to be your best self when you’re with him. I recommend you try hard—very, very hard—to avoid peeking.
You’re curious, and your brain wants to gather as much information about him as possible. And how I ended the craziness is by going off the site completely.
He has qualities you admire and he’s totally sexy, too. Here comes the hardest part: After the first date, you’re going to want to visit him online. So you do a drive-by online and notice his status says “ONLINE NOW.” Instantly you experience a moment of terror. Unbeknownst to anyone else, I’d become a lunatic, mostly because I wasn’t getting the attention I needed from him.
You might think looking at him online isn’t that big a deal. The truth is, it’s not going to help your situation. It’s one of the things that drive women off a site, away from online dating, and even drive off the man.Most men use dating site apps for their smart phone.