The spouse helps with decisions about the kids; attends their sporting events, theater performances, and weddings.Widows don’t have co-parents to rely on, but also don’t have listen to their opinions on child rearing.I replied, “I didn’t get divorced.”He said, “Well where’s your husband? The next question was a shocker, “Do you mind if I ask you how long has it been since you’ve had sex?”Never one to pass up a good line, I said, “Six feet under.” That resulted in a jaw dropping, confused, uncomfortable, pitiful facial expression, as he stammered, “I’m so sorry.” I blurted out, “But I didn’t kill him! ” My response without missing a beat, “Twenty-four hours.” That interchange was my initiation into the “Planet Single Bar Hopping Phase.” I later entered the “Planet Single Dating Phase.” Here are 10 tips to understanding the differences in dating widows vs divorcees:1) Divorcees didn’t have a happy marriage otherwise they’d still be married.
3) Divorcees get a break from parenting if they have shared custody.Widows have a full time parenting gig.4) Divorcees may get some ongoing financial support for the children and/or alimony payments.” This opened the door to a litany of questions: “Do you mind if I ask what happened? Widows had a happy marriage – or at least they only remember the happier times.2) Divorcees have spouses who are regularly involved in their children’s lives.
I sauntered into a swanky downtown Chicago restaurant with a divorced female friend.
Six months after my husband died, I decided to venture out into the single’s world.